This subject is awful, a why-think-about-it-before-you-have-to kind of thing. Each person’s experience of grief, or dealing with the grief-stricken is very personal. Add to that the complexities of relationships and religion (and our relationships to religion) and it’s a struggle to form an opinion when faced with a funeral to go to.
True mourning became almost an art form beginning in 1861 England with the death of Prince Albert. Queen Victoria made mourning fashionable and trendy. She showed respect for her dead husband as well as started mourning traditions that continued for decades. This coincided with the Civil War then taking place in the U.S between 1861-1865.
The funeral took place the following day from the residence at 4:30 in the afternoon and interment was made in the Knights of Pythias Cemetery. The attendance was large, for the child was so well known and so lovable. A sweeter and better child had never lived, nor had one ever been more idolized. A large majority of the visitors brought flowers, arranged in rich designs. They were piled high up on the little coffin, and when it was put into the hearse, they were banked high on each side of it.
But the insane costs don’t stop there. A hearse that costs about an hour to rent will be billed at a rate of about 0 per hour. Flowers that cost about are sold for about 0. The clergy will charge you a couple of hundred bucks for his services. Then there’s the burial itself. Opening the grave costs money as does lowering the body into the ground. By the time you’re done a simple no frills funeral can cost you close to ,000. The actual physical cost of the services provided to you are maybe ,000.
It was extremely quiet when Jackson’s casket, covered with white flowers, arrived and his brothers, all dressed alike and wearing red ties, carried the casket to the front of the guests and family. His children walked up and laid flowers on the at this recommended site. Lee Marie Presley, Jackson’s former wife, was said to be very emotional when the casket arrived.
Jesus stood at the tomb of Lazarus and wept. No man need question the masculinity of Christ. He contradicted the fallacy of our modern culture that promotes the idea that a compassionate heart is less manly. Only a man of immense strength and grace could have endured such suffering as Christ endured on the brutal cross that pierced Golgotha. I envision Christ one day splitting the eastern sky riding upon a powerful, white stallion submissive to its rider. The One who wept at Lazarus’ funeral will come with sword in hand. He will come as the greatest conqueror the world has ever known. He will do what Adolf and Alexander and Attila only dreamed of doing. He will conquer the world and his rule will be eternal and uncontested.
So, if you’re in Christ, “tighten up,” and stay in his way, to not “get out.” And, if you’re “messing around,” think about trading in that other lifestyle, for life in Christ. Ever thought about the condition of your soul? No doubt, we all have to stand before him, but it’s important that we go, prepared to meet him, and not be sorry. Otherwise, choosing all that “shortlived fun,” shall turn into eternal anguish later. Therefore, the Lord doesn’t want anyone, to have to leave here that way.
It used to be only men could be pallbearers. Emily Post in her etiquette book stated this was exclusively a task for males. Now many women serve as pallbearers too. Abigal Van Buren, the columnist of Dear Abby fame, ran a series of letters from female readers who had served as pallbearers. They all found the experience to be significant and meaningful.
So as I prepare for the inevitable things that go with a funeral and all the work and worry involved I look at my daughter for the one thing that I need to get through this difficult time And I remember the look in her eyes as she looks at me; with faith.